Comments for Apron Strings for Emily

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Mugsy

Mugsy — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 02:47:58 +0000

I don’t think saying I’m “happy” for you is the right choice of wording, but I’m proud of you and love your strength and courage. We’ve not made the decision to live child-free and truthfully we’re not there yet. But I can see that option now where even a year ago I couldn’t. Some days I worry that it means I’m giving up, but I don’t think it does.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by kellys

kellys — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:19:23 +0000

Beautifully said. Heartbreaking. You know I am here to listen at any time, without judgement, just love for a long-lost and refound friend.

ps We most likely will not go to the 20th. Various reasons as well. Hope to meet up for our Rebel thang, but having reconnected with several of you is all my soul needs.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Aunt Becky

Aunt Becky — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:50:28 +0000

Oh Em. I just love you and I want to hug you right no with my big fat hammy arms. I’m going to come and visit soon. I need to hang with you.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Erica

Erica — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:50:22 +0000

This is a very powerful post. I remember when we decided enough with IVF and ART. It was so draining. I hope you can find peace with your decision. It is a big step.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Celia

Celia — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:27:08 +0000

While I am now pregnant, we were three cycles away from calling it quits. What helped me decide our stopping point and feel ok with it was to embrace all the things possible when you are child free. I designed my dream car online, I made travel plans, I thought about glass filled apartments in the city. So much of my life was on hold for so long, that telling myself all the good things we could experience really helped. I don’t know if that will help you, but it helped me.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Katie

Katie — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:24:53 +0000

To be honest, I am not sure what to say, because I have a child and anything could come across incorrectly.

Let me just try this (and hope that I don’t offend): Congratulations on taking a step forward to living your life again. Congratulations to breaking free of the endless cycle of cycles. I will be thinking of you and praying for you while you move into this next phase.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Kate (Bee In The Bonnet)

Kate (Bee In The Bonnet) — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:07:46 +0000

Em–
I’m so happysad for you. I know that working through to come to this decision has been so hard for you. And I know that being infertile will never be easy, and the decision to live child-free was an incredibly difficult one, and one that you will think about for the rest of your life.

But, that said, I know what an incredible peace it must bring to you to have come to that place where you feel that a decision could be made. So, I’m sad for your loss, but so happy that you’ve found a way off of this infertility merry-go-round that works for you and your super-husband.

I’m wishing you continued peace and healing as you move forward in this next phase of life.
-kate

Comment on Cutting The Strings by ifcrossroads

ifcrossroads — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:44:36 +0000

I’m also here from LFCA and I just wanted to offer my support. This was a very incredibly moving post and I want to wish you all the best in your new journey.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by sharah

sharah — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:12:07 +0000

Every decision we make, whether to pursue treatment or to walk away, is hard — but the act of making the decision makes it our own. I’m not sure that “congratulations” is the right response, but that’s kind of how I feel; happy that you have a path that you’re comfortable with walking.

Comment on Cutting The Strings by Betty M

Betty M — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:54:53 +0000

Great post. It is really hard to come to a decision rather than just drift through life having decisions made for you by chance or circumstance. It takes courage.